I don’t know about you, but I’m “freaking out” just by thinking about that possibility.
Your child might be living in that state of confusion and anxiety all the time. So, let’s structure.
What does "Structure" mean?
A predictable and consistent daily schedule (time-space-people in charge). Lack of predictability increases anxiety, which leads to problematic behaviors. Yes, I’m talking about your kids. Are you with me?
Predictability is what your children need, and something you can implement at home. You don’t need complicated IEPs, or your insurance to approve services, balanced state/federal budgets or lawmakers to pass bills.
Benefits of "Structure":
q Builds Confidence
q Decreases Anxiety and Fears
q Develops Positive Expectations
q Encourages Cooperation and Compliance
q Increases Predictability
q Increases Motivation (when desired activities follow undesired activities)
q Increases sense of Control
q Increases Independence
q Anticipates future events
Sounds good? Well, it is.
I can hear your question, How to Structure Activities?
--Keep times, places and people in charge as consistent as possible. Start with the “must do”: meals, bed time, etc.
--Adjust the environment to focus on the activity. For example, turn off the TV when it is bed time.
--Present scheduled activities in a positive manner. Do not be overly rigid. Some flexibility is necessary.
--Include free and play time: children need it.
--It is very important to allow time for transitions between activities. For example, when your child comes from school he/she typically will need some free, unstructured time. Or when transitioning between activities. Prepare the child ahead of time. For example: "It is almost dinner time, so you will need to come in soon. Be ready to put your toys away".
--Have preferred activities follow non- preferred activities. In order to be able to do the desired activity, the child has to finish the undesired activity. For example, "homework first, then play"; or "bath first, then video".
Children may not have independent play skills. You may have to set aside time to play with your child.
Choices can be built into the schedule by allowing the child to choose between 2 activities, such as "bath or shower", or "going to the park or to the store", or "video or TV".
In sum, structure and routines do not mean “militaristic”. They mean “predictable”.
Very cost-effective: easy to implement, excellent benefits. Sometimes, the solution is simple.
Daniel Adatto, MA, BCBA