But there are difficulties. As therapists that work with children with special needs we face the challenge of motivating parents and caregivers to implement the therapeutic advice we offer. Learning the techniques and following through consistently takes a significant commitment on the part of parents, many of whom are already stressed and stretched to the limits. It helps if the therapist approaches the challenge of training parents with compassion and understanding while at the same time treating them professionally, as if they are the client, not just their child. Take into consideration that the same ABA principles and techniques we use in behavior plans for children work with parents also – rewarding desirable behaviors, consistency and persistency, effective instruction and environmental manipulations.
Some tips on how to implement a parent-training program:
· Parents need to be motivated. Praising them for their efforts and commitment is crucial. It helps to say “Good Job, mom”, or “You are doing a great job in taking care of your child and advocating on his behalf”. Keep in mind that we reinforce successive approximations towards the goal. We want to reward direction, not perfection.
· Make it simple. Break complex concepts and techniques into small, more reachable units, and teach each unit until mastered. Provide sufficient modeling, examples and opportunities for turning the theory into practice. If necessary, go to the grocery store and show mom how to handle her child’s behaviors. Provide parents with audiovisual materials, such as research, articles, books, and videos. One thing is to understand the theory. It is another thing is to be able to apply that theory to real-life situations.
· Consistency and Persistency: People do not learn overnight. Be patient. You will need to repeat the lesson several times. Do not get frustrated when parents reject your ideas and advice. They might need time to assimilate the new strategies.
· Environmental Manipulations: Parents are not able to implement a behavior plan if they have a full work schedule; if they are currently dealing with an emergency or a crisis, such as an illness or a divorce; if their lives are cluttered; or if they are extremely stressed. Helping them with time/stress management could be crucial in ensuring the success of the program. In some cases, we may need to suggest seeking professional help, taking time off work, changing jobs, getting help and support from family members and/or community sources.
When parents get “on board” the results are amazing. After all, what can be better than 24/7 therapy.