Parents may overlook this factor. After all, what child
doesn’t love being out of school? Adults assume that most children would be
happier during the stress-free days of summer. But this isn’t always so. Many
children do much better with routines that are more synonymous with the school
year. When a child can anticipate what is coming it increases his sense of
control and independence and therefore encourages cooperation. Having a familiar
routine builds confidence and decreases anxiety.
But all is not lost just because it is summer. If your child
is not attending a summer camp or doesn’t have a daily activity to depend on,
it is still possible to build structure and routines into the day. Some useful
tips are:
- Since children feel more secure when they know what to
expect, it is best to plan the day ahead of time and discuss it your child the
day before.
- Build some choices into the day to help your child feel
some control and nurture self-esteem.
- Use visual schedules (pictures, drawings, etc.) to cue a
child about what is happening.
- Present scheduled of activities in a positive manner and
try not to be overly rigid. Some flexibility is always necessary. If you remain
flexible and adjust your expectations, it will be easier to maintain a
stress-free environment for your children.
- Plan physical outlets daily.
Kids need to burn energy. Sitting in
front of the computer or playing video games for hours long is a recipe for
disaster. Planning play-dates at the park or at the beach could be good ideas.
Going hiking and bike riding is always fun.
- Watch what they eat. If your child is not overweight some
“junk-food” is OK as long as you balance it with healthy food. Food is the main
source of energy. Too much sugar and processed food have a direct effect on
mood changes. When in doubt, consult with you pediatrician or a nutritionist.
- Plan some quality
one-on-one time with your kids where they are the “boss” and you play with
them.
Daniel Adatto, BCBA
